Other Writing

“We Are Not A ‘Busy’ Family Anymore, And Life Is So Much Better” for Scary Mommy

But it was that one Monday afternoon, sometime in late fall, as I buckled all the kids into car seats after those godforsaken swimming lessons, that I began to wonder if our lives needed to look like this.

“How Foster Parenting Changed the Kind of Mom I Am” for Today’s Parent

When my husband and I became foster parents three years ago, we expected a lot of things. We expected to welcome children who needed love, security and stability into our home, quickly and sometimes without much notice. We expected to have to parent through a lot of emotions and trauma and to be a temporary safe place during turbulent times. We expected to say goodbye to kids we loved and would miss dearly. What I didn’t expect was how becoming a foster mom would change the way I approach parenting.

“4 Things I Wish I’d Known about Foster Parenting” for Today’s Parent

…we also believed that opening our home to children who needed love and security would be rewarding and worthwhile. I have to say that, over these past four years, I haven’t once regretted our decision. It has shaped us in ways I never could have imagined. There are still things I wish I had known that would have made things a little easier. If we were sitting down, having a heart-to-heart before you took the leap into fostering children, here’s what I would tell you.

“My First Pregnancy was so Traumatic, I Thought I’d Never Do it Again,” for Today’s Parent

But the lingering feelings of frustration, failure and disappointment wouldn’t leave. I had my babies home with me but still couldn’t let go of the resentment surrounding my pregnancy. My body had let me down…my husband and I put that part of our lives behind us. It was highly unlikely that I’d be able to get pregnant again without some kind of medical intervention, and after enduring so much stress and heartache surrounding pregnancy, neither one of us was anxious to go through it all again.

“How I’m Teaching My Boys to Change the World,” for Role Reboot

I don’t think it’s uncommon for parents to want to inspire their children to make the world a better place. And it’s natural for children to believe that they can do big and important things, so these conversations flow pretty easily in our house. But what I’ve noticed is that we’re often talking about empowering our children to change the world for them, for their children, their grandchildren. I think we can do better than that.

I was a guest on Caroline Donahue’s podcast, the Secret Library Podcast, chatting about editing and writing.